Leadership development is really just apprenticeship or discipleship further along the path of faith, knowledge, and skills. Discipleship further up the slope. If you have trained people in such a way that they can now reproduce and train others, in turn producing future leaders, you have the makings of a true movement.
I have found it helpful to think about life in a MC through two filters: organized and organic. My buddy Mike Breen turned me on to this way of looking at it and it has been very helpful.
In the same way that natural, healthy family life contains both of these elements, some aspects of life together are “organized” and structured and some aspects are more “organic” or natural.
Think for a moment about your immediate family or a group of friends. You probably don’t think about that time you spend with them as a succession of events you need to attend (or worse, something you might skip if you’re too busy). We don’t generally tell our friends, “We already met once this week; why do we need to get together again?” They are our friends. We enjoy getting together.
We don’t think of our time together as one more night out or as some kind of obligation we need to fulfill. And when we think about our families, we don’t count up the number of events per week that we attend with them. We live with them! There is a fabric to our life together that cannot be reduced to a series of “events.” This doesn’t mean that events and planned activities aren’t good or necessary.
A healthy family life includes planned-out events and reoccurring activity, but we don’t see these as something separate and distinct, because it’s all mixed into the normal rhythm and flow of our life together.
Things like bedtimes, meals, homework, and chores often do take place in an organized way. These are important, and they need to get done, so we put them on a calendar of some sort, and they come around time and again. But we don’t see these things as the sum total of our life together as a family.
Recently my family was together celebrating Thanksgiving. There are definitely parts of this holiday that we plan out. In fact, we almost follow a script in preparing our favorite Polish foods cooked “just like Grandma used to make,” or in using the old pink platters made out of indestructible Melamine that we must use as plates for the meal, or watching a favorite holiday movie and several football games on television. You probably have similar organized aspects, traditions, and reoccurring things you do during the holidays as well.
These activities provide continuity and they hold great value for us. But those organized things we do together are accentuated and enlivened by the myriad of spontaneous interactions and stuff we do in between—the jokes told and conversations had while cooking together or watching the game, while on a walk to the neighborhood store, a trip in the evening to a favorite pub, or a last stroll in the park to look at the lights. Often, just the hours spent on the couch under blankets watching nothing in particular on TV become cherished and important aspects of our time together.
Life happens in these unplanned, ordinary moments. Ideas and dreams are shared, correction and forgiveness are extended, and our bonds as a family are renewed and strengthened.[clickToTweet tweet=”Discipleship happens in all of the normal, mundane (yet important) rhythms of life together.” quote=”Discipleship happens in all of the normal, mundane (yet important) rhythms of life together.”]
Think of it as being like a piece of cross-stitch artwork. The initial fabric with the pattern on it provides the framework and structure; the colorful stitches and needlework that you add to that bring the whole thing to life. Without the regularity of the pattern, you would have nothing, and the stitch work would be random and meaningless. On the other hand, no one hangs up a white canvas cross-stitch pattern with a black-and-white outline on it. The true beauty comes when the different colors and textures are added in.
If you’ve been struggling with life in community–either too structured or too loose with no real intention, the next best time to focus on organized and organic rhythms is now.
Question: So which do you most naturally lean towards– organized activities or organic interaction–when it comes to disciple-making?
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As Christians, consistently praying for your kids may seem obvious. To pray for your child’s future spouse may be less obvious, but it’s a privilege that carries with it some pretty awesome blessings.
This week on the Lifeschool Podcast, we’ll show you seven ways and reasons to pray for your child’s future, and their potential spouse. The earlier you get started, the bigger the blessings!
Our kids were a little younger at the time, probably around 3, 5 and 7 years old. And like a lot of parents, we had at least one (all) of our kids who was pretty strong-willed. We were increasingly having to deal with actions and attitudes that required discipline, and some days it seemed like we were running our own little detention center.
I once heard it said that we always want to work FOR love instead of work FROM love. I want to remind you that in the beginning of the Story, God created humans in his own image on the sixth day, to be like him. And then on the next day—the very first full twenty-four hours of life for Adam and Eve—was a day off. A day of rest.
In the book of Exodus found in the Old Testament of the Bible, these ancient Hebrew writings show us that when God gives the fourth of what we commonly call the Ten Commandments, he says, “Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy.” He’s not talking about Ozzie Osbourne and his band… but he gives us a whole paragraph of instructions on this command while the other of the 10 Commandments are just mentioned briefly, such as, “You shall not steal or lie.”[clickToTweet tweet=”Why do we treat God’s command to keep sabbath as a suggestion? We wouldn’t do that with the other 9!” quote=”Why do we treat God’s command to keep sabbath as a suggestion? We wouldn’t do that with the other 9!”]
It seems that God knew that we were going to want to work hard at earning and providing for ourselves, and that we would need a rhythm of reminders to help us restore balance and trust in him each week.God created everything, including us, pronounced it awesome, and then took a break to enjoy it all. That is his desire for us too—to live in a rhythm of resting in his finished work. So why do we so often treat this command of God’s as a suggestion? “Oh, um, yeah…I really need to do that more.” Or… “In the New Year, I am going to rest and take some time off. At least I hope to.”
But we would never say that about any of the other commands: “Next month I am going to cut my stealing and telling lies in half. I really need to.” Or, “I should definitely stop murdering people. I really gotta cut back.”
What?!
Why is it when it comes to the command to rest and then work, we so easily blow this one off? Maybe we get so busy we forget. We lose track of God’s ongoing goodness and provision, and begin thinking that we’re our own source of talent, energy, skills, and…well, everything.[clickToTweet tweet=”God desires our lives to be a perpetual state of Sabbath, a non-stop resting in his completed work.” quote=”God desires our lives to be a perpetual state of Sabbath, a non-stop resting in his completed work on the cross.”]
God desires our lives to be a perpetual state of Sabbath, a non-stop resting in his completed work. On the cross, Jesus secured for us what we never could earn for ourselves, the forgiveness of sins and the restoration of our relationship with his Father. We can do nothing to add to this any more than we can cause plants to grow, control the weather, or cause God to love us any more than he already does.
Because of Jesus we can rest. Today. Every day. At a soul level.
So if you’ve been working hard and then resting… the next best time to start working from rest is now.
Let me know what keeps you from truly resting in a regular rhythm in the comments below.
Blessed to be a blessing sounds at once awesome… and a little daunting. Where do we start blessing people when there are SO MANY needs around us? That should make it easier, but honestly, it can kind of shut you down, not knowing WHO to bless or HOW.
This week on the Lifeschool Podcast, we talk about how to live fully enjoying the blessings in your life, but also how to live “blessed to be a blessing” to others as a family on mission.
