Caesar Kalinowski

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Discipleship and Mission Made Simple

The First Time I Tried Starting a Missional Community I Failed

Have you ever tried starting a missional community from scratch?

“Missional” is a label we give to the qualitative and descriptive aspect of how a church or group of people actually lives. My buddy Hugh Halter says it simply,

“It’s about how much like Jesus people become… how much they influence, woo, and transform the culture in which they are placed.”

A family, group of friends or church that lives like this… Sounds good!

Well, a few years ago my friends all thought so too. We were excited to be rebels who were starting a missional community.

Excited, that is, until things progressed to where we moved beyond our weekly meal and discussion about being missional. It was time to start heading out and building new relationships, serving those in need in our city… actually making disciples.

Starting a Missional Community

That’s when everyone recoiled a bit.

Let’s Try This Missional Community Thing Again

Now I’ve learned how to make discipleship and mission a reality–something simple that everyone can live out in everyday life.

What I didn’t know back in those earlier days of starting a missional community was that while most Christians want to make disciples and live on mission with God, they also feel way to busy!

Often, when moving toward a lifestyle of discipleship and mission, people become overwhelmed with what they perceive as the risk of their family time, “margins” and sanity!

The secret is moving from “additional” to “intentional” in our thinking.

Discipleship is not a set of activities we need to jam into our lives, or a series classes that we need to take. And a missional community is more than just a weekly meeting of our small group with a name change.

It’s a series of simple, rhythms or “moves” we can easily, and intentionally, engage in our everyday life. Step by step.

Starting a Missional Community Step by step

Imagine…

  • Making new friendships that naturally lead to “doing life” together.
    (I can show you how.)
  • Or knowing how to talk with others about spiritual things without feeling awkward or pushy.

Discipleship becomes a way of life that includes your kids, close friends and neighbors.

That’s what my family and friends now experience.

If you want it… I’m here to get you started without all the headaches, stop/starts and frustration.

The best part? It’s 7 simple steps.

This process takes a little effort and intentionality. But it’s not complicated. And it’s one of the fastest ways I’ve discovered to get started with others making disciples and building community.
(You can do Steps 1 and 2 today!)

I want to give you access to this free Start-Up Guide (including ‘How To Start a Missional Community From Scratch’). Just click the button below and I’ll send it over.

Starting a Missional Community From Scratch

 

Spirituality That Fuels God’s Mission

Mission for God and intimacy with God can often become disconnected and seem like competing priorities and passions. But what if you could cultivate a vibrant and authentic spirituality that doesn’t draw you away from your neighbors, but propels you into the lives of others and the needs of your city? 

In this episode of the Everyday Disciple Podcast, Caesar is joined by church planters Jeremy and Monica Chambers as they break down this divide in a way that helps you discover fresh joy in living as a Jesus-follower, and become more fruitful in your everyday mission. 

In This Episode You’ll Learn: 

  • Why there seems to be a divide between deep spirituality and mission.
  • Why focusing just on contemplation or just on the mission is incomplete.
  • How to cultivate a vibrant spirituality that doesn’t draw you away from others.
  • A practice where you’ll discover new ways in which God is truly amazing!

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Jeremy & Monica Chambers, a young married couple, share 31 spiritual practices that fuel God's mission in our life.

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How Leaders Keep from Tapping Out, Burning Out or Being Disqualified

My good buddy Hugh Halter and I have sort of been rejoicing and commiserating lately as to how long we’ve actually been doing ministry (in its various forms) and trying to lead others in a lifestyle of discipleship and mission. Man, we’re getting old bro!

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Becoming a Journeymen​

And we wrestled with the things that we feel have allowed us to stay in the game for the long haul and not tap out, burn out or disqualify ourselves. How did we come to be “Journeymen”?

There have been similar patterns to our journeys and we’ve actually come up with seven things that we believe all leaders need to commit to in order to stay in and finish well. We’ve come to articulate them in the form of “oaths” that every leader should commit to. Let me share the second of the seven…

#2   “I Commit to Move at God’s Pace and Measure what God Measures.”

If we’re going to be leaders that last and not chase hard after the latest fads, public (or elder board) opinions and wrong measurements, we’re going to need to commit to letting God set the speed and metrics.

A Pattern and a Promise
There is a reason Jesus lived and taught in the ways he did. He wasn’t random or cleverly trying to adapt to the local customs of his day. Yes, his methods were rooted in real life and they were immersed into his culture, but there was something far more eternal and subversive going on. Jesus was on his Father’s mission, restoring all things to the way he originally created them to be. His life and teachings provide both the example for us and open up a new possibility—for people to once again live in a close relationship with God under his rule and reign. Jesus taught in parables that offered his disciples (and us) a pattern and a promise for life in the kingdom: “For who hath despised the day of small things?”i

In Luke 13 we encounter Jesus explaining how the good news of the kingdom—what we commonly refer to as the gospel—works itself out, starting with the basic principle small is big.

Jesus asked, “What is the kingdom of God like? What shall I compare it to? It is like a mustard seed, which a man took and planted in his garden. It grew and became a tree, and the birds perched in its branches.”ii

The pattern here is clear and simple. This new kingdom restoration doesn’t start off big, with everyone jumping on board. Notice that Jesus tells us that the little mustard seed is first planted in the man’s own garden. After it is planted, it grows into something larger, something that others can find their place in. There are many small steps on the journey to a kingdom life lived with Jesus on his mission. All of your steps will be baby steps at first.

The promise is also clear. After the good news of the kingdom takes root and changes your own heart, Jesus promises it will expand outward to include others. The seemingly small first steps you take to cultivate growth in your own life will grow over time and have a larger effect on others.

We are not called to build elaborate, structured programs and systems and then expect lots of people to come on in and fill them up for us. Instead, we are to plant small (gospel) seeds that will eventually grow into changed lives, changed families, and changed communities.

Small is big. It’s important to remember this if you plan to stay in ministry and on mission. That’s the first kingdom principle that Jesus taught. But it wasn’t the only one. Continuing with his disciples, Jesus taught them another kingdom code: slow is fast.

Again he [Jesus] asked, “What shall I compare the kingdom of God to? It is like yeast that a woman took and mixed into about sixty pounds of flour until it worked all through the dough.”iii

The pattern: Like yeast, a catalyst for change and growth, the gospel begins to affect our lives slowly at first, igniting a change within us that influences every aspect of our existence.

The promise: The good news of the kingdom is about more than just our afterlife, what happens to us when we die. Christianity is about more than sin, heaven, and hell. Jesus’ kingdom rule and reign is present now, and it transforms everything about us. It changes our perspectives and priorities, our motives and methods. Living on God’s mission of making disciples is about small shifts in belief and practice that over time make a big difference. Just as a ball of dough takes time to rise, we need to be patient with God’s process of change and growth in our hearts and lives. Slow is fast.

Multiplication Wins!

There is an underlying principle in both of these parables, a goal that these two principles lead to: multiplication. The good news of Jesus’ kingdom rule and reign is not just about the small changes in your life that lead to transformation over time, nor is it simply a matter of taking time and having the patience to do the right things. Both of these parables teach us that life in the kingdom always leads to multiplication. And multiplication always beats out hard work, sacrifice, and big goals and dreams, eventually changing the world.

It is interesting to me that in Matthew’s gospel, right after he records these two parables, he shows Jesus continuing on with back-to-back parables on how valuable the kingdom of God is:

​ ​“The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field. “Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls. When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it.”iv

After sharing these two short parables, Jesus wraps up his teaching time with the disciples by telling them a final parable about some fishermen who let down their nets to catch “all kinds of fish.”

This would have likely reminded them of an earlier time when Jesus commanded Peter and his buddies to throw out their nets after a long night of fishing.v When they pulled the nets back into their boat, they were overflowing with fish to the point of breaking! The fishermen were amazed at this miracle, and it’s almost as if Jesus is saying to them, “That’s how I roll!” He wants them to understand that the kingdom life will always lead to expansion and abundance. He is saying to them, “Healthy things grow. They multiply. And that’s how God has ordered all of life. And I am going to show you how to live this way and teach others as well.”

Ok, so there’s the first part of this “Journeymen” oath. As leaders we really need to see the world–God’s world–and ministry the way that Jesus says it truly works. We need to move at God’s pace.

Small is big, slow is fast and multiplication wins every time.

Next week I’ll lay part two of this on you: Measure what God measures.

If you’re interested in a unique environment where we teach you all 7 of the Journeymen Oaths,  join me and Hugh Halter at his ranch.

Missional Leadership at the next level… The things you’ll wish you had talked about 10 years from now–TODAY!

Hope to see you soon…
​Caesar​ & Hugh

How to Create a Lifestyle of Discipleship

Is discipleship about gaining knowledge, or is it about a transformed life? Is it a series of classes or, like with Jesus and his pals, was it an all-of-life kind of a deal?

In this episode of the Everyday Disciple Podcast, we’re talking about true discipleship and looking at what a lifestyle of discipleship looks like when it is all woven into the normal rhythms of your everyday life in community.

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

  • A working definition of discipleship that will reshape your thinking on this immediately
  • How Jesus lived life with his disciples and what he then hoped/commanded them to do
  • Why a series of 8-10 classes done in a classroom will never produce mature disciples
  • Why an integrated lifestyle “apprenticeship” was Jesus’ model for us

Get started here…

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Family Dinner Night

My wife Tina and I, have for years, been living out our spirituality–our faith–with others in community. I’m not talking about the “church we go to” but rather intentional community with others that’s focused on living like Jesus would live if he were walking around our neighborhood today.

A big part of living like a family with others is eating together, and OFTEN!

As if it is carved into sacred stone, our extended family–we call it our missional community–gets together for a weekly family dinner night.

These collaborative meals are usually simple, sometimes elaborate, often thrown together, but always warm and full of acceptance. It is a needed bright spot in our week and a time when anyone and everyone are invited in everyone is always invited. At times we will take communion together and go around speaking Good News to each other, pushing back the hurts and disappointments of the week and reminding one another of what is now true of us because of Jesus. Afterward, everyone helps clean up, making sure there is no leftover mess.

As a family, we practice an “open door policy” with one another. I know that I can stop by the home or apartment of those in my community at any time and it will be no big deal. It works in reverse too; my friends know that they can stop by our house any time (I’ve noticed that the single guys seem to practice this more around dinnertime).

This may freak you out a little. You may be thinking, “Whoa, how do you have any time to yourself. 

What about boundaries?

There have been times when my wife, Tina, and I are sitting on the couch in the evening having a glass of wine together and the doorbell will ring. “Hey, Caesar. Hi, Tina. What are you guys doing tonight?” And I will say, “Hey, Nick, how you doing brother? Tina and I were just sitting here watching this romantic comedy together and I, um, was kind of hoping for a happy ending…if you know what I mean. So unless there is some emergency or you really need us right now, let’s get together tomorrow if that’s cool.”

Because of the openness and trust we have with one another, there is not only the freedom to open our homes, but we also have the freedom to say “Thanks for stopping by, but now’s not a great time.” We all know this and respect this reality.

But sometimes it’s hard!

Living like this could really spin-off in a bad direction if we don’t live with a focus on the Good News and live with intentionality. If my life is all about my comfort and feeding my preferences, then all of that stuff would be frightening and impossible to sustain. But in light of the love we have been shown, it is a pleasure and a blast to live in ways that show what our real, true heavenly Dad is really like.

Sure it would have been great if someone would have shared these ideas with you or led you into this way of thinking and living years ago, but as always, the next best time to begin…is now!

Question: What’s keeping you from hosting a weekly family dinner for your friends and community? If you’re doing it already, what are you experiencing?

5 Dumb Things Christians Need To Stop Doing

The life of Jesus was and will always be counter-cultural. But often, it seems, we’re not ridiculed or rejected because we’re living such radically loving and selfless lives, it’s because we actually live so little like Jesus.

In this episode, Caesar looks at 5 dumb things that Christians need to stop doing that are affecting our witness and our discipleship efforts. And he gives a little of the gospel “thing behind the thing” with each of these issues.

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

  • Why we need to be careful with what we say online.
  • How even our most loving actions can be misunderstood.
  • The things that Jesus got angry about (are you?).
  • How the way we handle conflict reflects our faith.

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5 Dumb Things Christians Need To Stop Doing

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ABOUT ME

I am the author of the top selling book, The Gospel Primer. My latest books, Transformed and Small is Big, Slow is Fast came out recently on Zondervan.

I help those with a high commitment to intentional living in the areas of their discipleship, family and mission acquire the leadership skills and tools necessary to succeed and leave a lasting legacy.